Sex in Marriages

Tips about sex in marriages.

A man called a (11pm) radio programme that was organized in one of the radio stations in Anambra State, Nigeria and was complaining how his wife was denying him sex due to the fact that they are in Lenten season. see 1st Cor 7 vs 5 

Another man called same radio station and said that it’s wrong to discuss sex on air (his personal opinion).

OK, what is a sexual intercourse? According to Wikipedia it is principally the insertion and thrusting of the penis, usually when erect, into the vagina for sexual pleasure, reproduction, or both. Sexual related issues have destroyed many marriages in this recent generation and this article will give remedies to it when the following steps are properly followed.

Ø  SCHEDULE SEX: Rather than killing the mood with a lack of spontaneity, scheduling sex tends to "take away all the very real excuses I could otherwise use, like that I'm exhausted after working and getting the kids to bed," says Holly Jenkins,* who has been married for two years and has three boys under the age of 10. "For couples in long-term relationships, planning a romantic interlude leads to a higher-quality, more enjoyable sexual experience. Send each other anticipatory texts, plan what you'll wear (or not), and so on. also see 1st Cor 7 vs 1 - 40,

Ø  LOCK THE BEDROOM DOOR: This little bit of hardware is essential in a home with children, says Ruth Cork, who's been married 24 years and has 12 children, ranging in age from 11 months to 23 years. She jokes that whenever the family moves to a new home, a new lock on the master bedroom tops the to-do list. Even if you don't have a physical lock, creating a sense of boundaries is key, says Caroline married 14 years, with 7 children. "I always made sure the children were put to bed on time when they were little so my husband and I could have our time together; the kids were also taught to always knock to announce their presence. Each couple needs to evaluate their environment and determine the optimal conditions for great sex, For some, a lock may be enough to create an adults-only barrier. Others may need to go further to create a sensual, relaxing haven in their bedroom by banning electronic gadgets, computers and TVs, not to mention kids and their toys!

Ø  KEEP COMMUNICATING: “Excellent communication skills" is the top reason a woman and her husband continue to enjoy a satisfying sex life. According to Sarah "Before we got married, my husband told me we would talk about everything, and he meant it," she says. There's no other way to understand what your partner wants, needs or enjoys other than talking. And don't make assumptions: You may be surprised to learn that what you thought was foolproof doesn't really float his boat anymore. Save those conversations for when you're not having sex, though in the actual moment, speak up about small adjustments your partner can make to increase enjoyment. also see Prov. 3 vs 27

Ø  TRUST EACH OTHER: Maurine cites her and her husband's adventurous sex life, but is quick to add that for adventurousness to exist, it has to be preceded by trust. "Great sex is a reflection of the overall rapport and communication you have in other rooms of the house. To have trust with your spouse, you have to always try to build each other up outside the bedroom. If you say or do something critical or disrespectful to your partner during the day, why would he want to be naked and try something new with you later that evening?" she asks. Trust, comfort and ease with each other happens when you engage in active listening. You have to work on listening to your partner in an active, empathetic way and reciprocate by confiding in him, and baring your own feelings too. Once you two feel like allies—not adversaries—your sex life will feel more honest and, hopefully, a lot hotter! also see Gen 2 vs 25 

Ø  CARE ABOUT THEIR APPEARANCE AND HEALTH: "We still take pride in how we look for each other," says Mark. Certainly staying in shape and paying attention to appearance helps you and your partner maintain the mood. But it's not just about pleasing your partner's eye; taking care of yourself makes you feel good about yourself. Not only that, but your libido is dependent on your overall health. "When you feel unhealthy, tired, ill or lacking in energy, you're not likely to be motivated to engage in regular sexual activity. So, hit the gym, put on some makeup or dress up even if you're not going anywhere. Do whatever makes you feel sexy and he's guaranteed to notice. also see Song of solomon 7 vs 6 - 12

Credit to www.womansday.com

In conclusion sex is good and must be enjoyed by married couples Eccl 9 vs 9. Also, people must stop bringing religion into sex because if its not properly checked it can lead to infidelity and separation. Also see Lev 18 vs 22, Rom 1 vs 26 - 27